Create Your Own Pool of Bethesda

Every evening I read my daughter a biblical bedtime story, and last nights story really hit home with me in my everyday business life. I read to her about the Pool of Bethesda.

Short and sweet, the story is about this Pool of Bethesda. Some writings said that at certain times an angel would come down and stir up the water. Then the first person to get into the pool after the water was stirred, would be healed of whatever disease or infirmity the person had. Well there was a man who was crippled all 38 years of his life, and he wanted to be healed, but people would beat him to the punch and make it into the pool before him. Until he met Jesus, and He healed him. The story continues from there but I’d like to discuss the similarities I encounter everyday with this story in my business.

The first is how everyone who had an ailment, knew of this “cure” and would wait patiently for the troubling of the waters, and battle to be first in the pool in order to be made whole. People knew this, same how people are frustrated in their jobs, frustrated with their finances, sick financially, and know of another way, but complain as the cripple man in the story did saying how they don’t have anyone to help them. If I was that cripple man, and was truly frustrated with my state, I believe I wouldn’t allow anyone to beat me to that pool. Or I would wade in the water until the water became stirred that way I would already be in the water and no one could beat me to it. Same how I was frustrated with my job, knew there was another way, and I didn’t have help, I just made it happen for myself. I created my own opportunity. If someone really wants a change, a change that man will find.

I have great news for you all though. You don’t have to go thru the trenches like I did to change your life, or change your financial status. Allow me to guide and help you. That’s what I am here for. 8-)

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The Never Ending Story

I recently purchased the DVD children’s story “The NeverEnding Story.” I absolutely loved this story as a child, but watching it all over again with my 6 year old, I have a totally new spin on the movie, and I highly recommend EVERYONE young and old to watch this AMAZINGLY written story.

You can watch the whole movie online on youtube. Here is the beginning, and the rest of the movie follows in separate increments.

This story is about how a young boy’s imagination becomes a reality. The young boy is actually reading a book, but the book comes to life as he is reading it. As he is reading the book, he becomes a character, a very important factor of the book, which in turn is the reality.

For those of you who haven’t seen this fascinating movie, shame on you, and please waste no time checking it out, but there were several points within in the movie that I was just floored with as I watched this old movie with new adult eyes.

The young boy Atraio is kind of like the main character and a straight warrior. I just had to say that, but he is a beast, in a very good way. But anyway, the movie begins with Atraio being the chosen one to save Fantasia from “The Nothing.” The Nothing is like this darkness that kind of sweeps and wipes lands clear and free, and the people saught refuge in the Empress of the land, but there’s some connection between her and The Nothing and she is very sick, so it all lies upon Atraio’s feet to save Fantasia. No one can give him any advice, just that if he fails, he fails a whole nation. That’s alot of weight upon the shoulders of a little boy.

The first point that I found extremely crucial and heartfelt was when Atraio was traveling through the swamps of saddness with his horse and best friend Artex. Everyone knew that while traveling through the swamps of sadness you can’t allow the sadness to overtake you, or else you will sink and die in the swamp. Kind like with life, and any new venture one might embark upon. There are going to be ups and downs, but you can’t allow the sadness to over take you. Its okay to have a moment to yourself, but don’t dwell in it. Otherwise you’ll find yourself feeling sorry for yourself, and feeling as if you can’t do the thing you aspire to do, and quit. Which in this case would be you sinking in the swamps of your sadness and that thing you want to do, will eventually die and you will give up.

But Artex, the horse, allows the swamps of sadness to get to him and he begins to sink. No matter how hard Atraio tries to plead, tug and pull his friend out of the swamp, Artex had to do it for himself. Again just like in life, we can want all the things in the world for others, but if they don’t want it for themselves, its not going to happen. And so Atraio had his first hard real lesson. After shedding a few tears for his friend, he picked himself up, and continued his mission. And the same with us, we have a goal to achieve, and we must, must, must press on.

The next key scene in the movie was when Atraio was speaking with the shell mountain, which was a big ole turtle alerting them of the terrible nothing coming and asking for help. And the words that came from the big turtle rang clear in my head alot like how people don’t take their future into their own hands in this economy. They said “We don’t even care whether or not we care.” That’s serious. They realize there’s a problem, knows its something they can do about it, but they don’t even care that they don’t care. Sounds like alot of people stuck in dead end jobs, hating what they do, know its something out there better for them, but they just stay in the rut.

The terrible nothing isn’t only headed towards Fantasia, its in our world as well, and its grows stronger everyday. You can keep your job, but you better have something else going on. Something to recession proof your income. There is no security or safety in a job.

The final point I’d like to express is when Atraio meets up with the creature of darkness who is the servant behind the power of the nothing, sent to stop Atraio from saving Fantasia. Atraio learns that all along while he was searching to get beyond the boundaries of Fantasia, Fantasia has no boundaries. Fantasia is the world of human fantasy, that every creature is a piece of the hopes and dreams of mankind. Therefore it has no boundaries, possibilities are endless. But The Nothing started and Fantasia began to die because the people have begun to lose their hopes and have forgotten their dreams. A man once said that a man without a dream is dead. And so Fantasia is dying because The Nothing grows stronger with each and every hope and dream deferred and given up. Before Atraio fights the creature of darkness, the creature tells him that he is helping The Nothing because he wants the power. And in order to get the power he needs the control, and the people who have no hopes and dreams are easy to control, ergo you get the power. I like how Atraio tells the creature that he will not die easily. And that’s how we must be. Willing to fight for our dreams. Willing to fight for our goals. This is your life here. Is it just me or do you feel like I feel that The Terrible Nothing still grows and exists to this day?

Powerful, powerful movie. Watch it and you’ll see lots of great key concepts that can be applied to your life, your family, and your business.

My Public Apology

This is something I have been wanting to do for such a very long time now. And I have tried to think of a more humiliating way of doing it, and given the circumstance this is about the worst it can get. I want to sincerely apologize to someone who was a very good friend of mine, of who I believe I hurt pretty badly. Now I’m not no way shape or form a malicious or straight mean person, but for selfish reasons I did what I did for reasons I shall explain. Here goes…

This past summer, I had been on the fence with my living choices. My family needed me in NY, I wanted to stay in Atlanta with my friend, and my daughter wanted to move closer to her dad in Las Vegas. After an internet convention held in Detroit, and passing thru Chicago, I received a phone call. It was my daughter, she was crying telling me how much she missed me and didn’t understand why I couldn’t of been there in Las Vegas with her. (See my daughter was staying with her dad for the summer) and I remember tears just falling from my face, b/c when you have a child, your life is not your own. Your dreams, hopes and aspirations are second, and the childs needs are put first. I knew at that present moment that I was going to hurt a very good friend of mine, and I didn’t know how to tell them. I had already made plans to go down to Atlanta and visit them in a few days, so I stuck with that plan.

The ride from Chicago to Atlanta was a pretty short one although it took me 11hours, it didn’t seem like enough time, b/c I hadn’t the slightest clue how to explain to my friend that I was moving clear across the country despite my cry and pleading that I would stay nearby in Atlanta. Upon arriving the city limits, I decided to keep my moving a secret, because I truly in my heart felt that IF I had told my friend I was moving that it would ruin the whole visit, and we wouldn’t have a decent goodbye. That was wrong on my part and I want to apologize, because I should have gave my friend the option of continuing the plan of me visiting due to the new circumstance of my moving, instead of me selfishly still wanting to see my friend and having my own ‘decent’ goodbye. I truly apologize for that. I know its hindsight, but I want you to know that it killed me every minute in my heart to know I was leaving and I hadn’t been 100 with you.

I didn’t make it clear before writing this, that after my daughter graduated from Kindergarten, I put all of my things in storage in Atlanta, took my daughter to her father in Vegas, and my plan was to just save and travel. So, as I stayed with my friend in Atlanta, and they went to work, I gave all my things away in storage and just packed up my car with clothes and pictures.

The night before I planned to leave I felt horrible. I couldn’t even sleep well at all, and it was written all over my face. I even remember my friend asking me the morning of “Are you okay?” I lied and said “Yes.” But my heart was aching with turmoil. I was planning to drive clear across the country from Atlanta to Las Vegas, and here I had made movie plans after my friend got off of work. I hugged my friend goodbye, and got on the road. Now I have traveled and drove lots and lots of places, but never was there a ride such as this. My stomach cramped up, I felt queasy like as if I was on a never ending roller coaster. I was literally sick with myself for the way I was and had treated my friend. Its so unlike me. All because I didn’t want to give my friend the option of saying “No, don’t come and see me before you go to Vegas, it would hurt me too badly.” I didn’t want to hear that, cuz I really wanted to see my friend before leaving, and look at the cost it costed me.

My friend texted me around lunch time, and I had just crossed into Texas, so there definitely was no turning back, and asked “Wat’s up?” I just couldn’t take it anymore, my stomach cramping, feeling sick like on a roller coaster, although it was the absolute worst way to tell a friend of yours something like what I had to share, I texted back that I was on the road, and I was moving to Las Vegas. Instantly, my cramping stopped, and it changed to a pant, like what’s going to happen now. A text came back, as expected with anger and hurt, and I didn’t even blame them. I kind of figured that would of happened. And almost immediately, I pulled over and threw up. I felt horrible. I am not a person who can treat people like crap and go on with my day. Although this story doesn’t depict such, I truly am a honest and sincere person, and although I made a decision for someone else I honestly felt as though my friend couldn’t handle seeing me if they knew what was at hand. And I just wanted the last visit/memory to be a pleasant one. Not one of hurt and pain, but look what happened anyway. So much for my plan.

But Sharie I want you to know that I am truly sorry for the way I treated you. Please know, it was not my intention. Everything I do is for that little girl of mine and if I could have my way, I’d be in Atlanta right now meeting you for lunch. Please accept my apology, please know that I did not mean to hurt you.

I’m sorry…

The 7-Minute Traffic Booster

As an internet marketer who is always seeking knowledge, always opting into people’s lists to find out what new tools or ways they have to share about how to be better. If you aren’t do things like that, shame on you, because you should, you never know what you can learn from another individual, especially when its free. All it costs you is your email address, and some time to read or listen to what they have to say, and if you don’t like it, you can simply opt out of their list.

Well I stumbled across a gentleman by the name of Codrut Turcanu, who spoke on the “7-Minute Traffic Booster.” Who could resist such knowledge, especially when he added his capture title “How to Add Hundreds of Subscribers to Your List “Overnight” in 6 Minutes or Less.” How interesting? He caught my attention, so I opted in to find out more.

The method Turcanu speaks of is solo mailing, ad swapping. In fact there is a really cool article here that explains exactly how to do such. But basically all it is is exchanging mailings with fellow mailing list owners in your niche market or industry. You would of course need a opt-in list or squeeze page as some call it in order to do such. You’d want to do this to build your existing list, or to market to a much larger list the product you are promoting, and on the back end gain new subscribers. For example, maybe you are new to online marketing, and you are an affiliate for XYZ Product. You may have only 100 subscribers to your list or zero, in either case the example doesn’t vary to much. You want to promote your affiliate link to someone who has a list much bigger than yours. Maybe 5000, or more. And you pitch an offer to them. Let them know that you are new, and what your situation is (zero subscribers, or 100) and ask them if they would send out your ad to their list. Now if you have only 100 subscribers, you may have to agree to send out the person you are swapping with, the bigger list person’s ad more than once to accomodate the difference in list size, but that’s only fair. If you don’t have any subscribers at all, then you may want to agree to place a banner on your website/blog for the other person, maybe write some articles, maybe post in forums for them, whatever you guys decide upon, and seal the deal. No money exchanged, just a favor for a favor.

What you will receive in the end, is some sales (hopefully) and with those sales comes new opt in subscribers that you now can add to your list. Turcanu said his best swap brought him in 300 subscribers in 24hours, and 450 in 3 days. That’s not bad for ad swapping, and not costing you any money, just time.

The problem however is its not easy to find someone to swap with you. Its easy to find a person who is successful and has a strong large mailing list to agree to work with you. Its also not easy, if youare just starting out, to craft and create a strong sales letter that converts. Which makes this method a tab bit difficult to do. I love the knowledge that is being shared, however you can do virtually the same thing with e-zines. Which is why I love the Directory of Ezines. With the DOE you can vitually find any e-zine out there that houses the same type of information/product that the people want, and are looking for. Although its not for free like ad swapping, a small fee between $80-150 will allow you to market your product to a list of over 20,000 subscribers or more. You are sure to find results with that amount of folks looking at your ad. If nothing else you will break even, and learn what you need to do to increase your results the next time around. And guess what? The DOE helps you. They have teleseminars, live coaching from the owner himself. You can not fail with ezines. And most importantly, you can not fail with the Directory of E-zines.

Common Sense Relationships

Sam Walton said by enriching others, I enrich myself…which is in essence the same as “help enough people get what they want, and you will inevitably get what you want.” This is a key principle that as a internet marketer we hear over and over, but I don’t think many people really understand it.

I was listening to my boy again, Zig Ziglar and he spoke on this very same topic. Zig talked and explained what EVERY one wants in life. Everyone! Everyone wants to be happy, healthy, wants friends, peace of mind, security, to be reasonably prosperous, wants good family relationships, and hope that the future will be better. Whether we want to admit that or not, that’s what we all want. Zig also made a profound statement when he said “Perception is the cruelest form of reality.” Zig summed it up by saying that we need to understand the perception of other people. In other words, put yourself in other peoples shoes, and treat people how you’d want to be treated. People want to feel important. That should be common sense, but common sense isn’t common.

Zig tells a story about how he was out to dinner with some colleagues and everytime the waitress would bring something out to him, salad, drink, anything he would thank her, and give her a warm smile. No one else at the table even acknowledged  her presence, she was merely the help to them. The time for dessert came along, and everyone else at the table got a very small portion of cake and ice cream, whereas Zig’s portion was considerable larger. So the others at the table said “Wow Zig, you must know that lady.” Zig replied, “No, but I know alot about her.” The others asked, “How so…?” Zig spoke and said “Well I recognize that she is a human being, wants to be happy, healthy, wants friends, peace of mind, security, to be reasonably prosperous, wants good family relationships, hope that the future will be better, she works really hard and appreciates a simple please and thank you!”

Zig wasn’t treating the lady with any special treatment. Nor was he treating her nicely just to receive a larger portion of ice cream. Its just common sense to treat people nice, and with respect.

Studies have shown that your immune system is automatically strengthened by having love, hope and faith instilled within you.

Robert Updegraff said “In terms of downright happiness, the returns per minute from giving are far greater then the returns for getting.”

You never know what difference you may make on someones life. That waitress Zig made acquaintance with could have been contemplating suicide, but with a little kindness shown, decided otherwise. When we are givers, things do happen for us.

Andrew Carnegie has been known for having 43 millionaires work for him. Someone asked him one day, “How did you get 43 self sufficient, millionaires to work for you?” Carnegie answered “Well, they weren’t millionaires when they started to work for me.” Carnegie continued “You develop people the same way you mine gold. When you go to a goldmine, you remove tons and tons of dirt to find gold…but you don’t go in there looking for the dirt, you go in looking for the gold.” But what’s even more interesting is that you will find whatever it is you go in there looking for.

Zig closed the seminar with what I truly believe in my heart is a way of life, not just a parable or story. Zig tells a story about a man given a choice to go to either heaven or hell. He goes to heaven first and he sees where there is tons and tons of food and fruits and vegetables, and people just having a ball. Goes to hell and there is the same food, but the people there are so sad and miserable. So the man asks because he doesn’t understand, how come if in both places people have the same food, same amount one place can be so happy and the other so miserable. Then it is explained to the man that the reason the people in heaven were so happy was because they had a 3 foot fork and was helping each other to eat and feast upon the plethora of food, whereas in hell, no one wanted t help anybody.

Whether you are self-employed or working for someone, having and maintaining good relationships isn’t rocket science. Just treat people how you want to be treated, listen to them, and be kind. If you help enough people get what they want, you will enrich your life along the way. I promise you!

How To Create Your Million Dollar Moment

I was listening to a skill-set video by a gentleman named Jerry Clark this morning who had a wonderful insight on life actually and how to “arrive” at whatever it is you want to accomplish in life.

Jerry Clark first spoke about how you, because no one can do it for you, but you have to first attract your million dollar moment. Jerry spoke about how he was born in a garage, and grew up very poor, and he remembers asking his mother for new shoes, pants and things of that nature, and his mother’s reply was always “We don’t have enough money…” But it wasn’t until Jerry wanted to take Karate lessons that hearing his mother’s excuse was just the last straw for Jerry and so he decided to take matters into his own hands, and got himself a paper route. Just so that he could pay for the Karate classes he so desperately wanted to do at $40/month.

That’s what we must do with ourselves. At some point we have to say, you know what, the same ole excuse of not having enough money or whatever it is that you are hindering yourself from, you have to kind of get upset with yourself, and say hey, I’m a take action on this thing and just get it done.

So at a young age of 11 years old, that was Jerry’s first “monumental moment.” And from there it can only grow. From there Jerry saw the Mercedes Benz car, homes with movie theatres inside them, and it drove his hunger. Jerry realized at 19 that trading time for dollars, like what most of us do in a job setting is not what’s happening. Entrepreneurs get paid for trading results for dollars. So there is a shift that needs to take place there in order to understand that key concept. Because in a job setting, you can have the crappiest day and not be as effective as you could, and still get paid, but in the entrepreneur world, that’s not the case.

So you must surround yourself with successful people, other entrepreneurs, people who have already produced results.

Jerry describes what is  called a Success Triangle. Now picture a triangle, having the three points, and now lets look at the base on the left, Jerry calls that Internal Communication.

Internal Communication is how you communicate with yourself. Your expectation. Your beliefs, philosophies.  We must master this.

The next base to the right is the External Communication. This is how you communicate with others. The direct marketing, copy-writing skills. However and whenever possible, you want to study influence. This will help you understand about what makes people tick.

Jerry describes how there are four things that you are going to go through when mastering anything.

One, is time, just like it took and takes time to learn that “thing” on the job, this is going to take time as well. Something like a year or so.

The second is energy, and energy is nothing more than action. You must, must, must take action. Confuscion the greek philospoher once said “To know and not do is yet not to know.” Meaning you might think you know something, but you really don’t know cuz you’re not doing it. So we must take action.

The third is Frustration. No matter how calm or relaxed of a person you are, you will get frustrated, but its important to stay in your lane. That’s my own personal philosophy of frustration. I have lived and have visited several cities, and because I like to drive I find myself in tons and tons of traffic. Now I like to think of myself as a pretty calm and relaxed person, but sitting traffic is the most infuriating thing to me. But my motto is to just stay in your lane, Steer the course, because slow motion is better than no motion, and although its frustrating, you still want to get there. I have seen where cars will pull over and take a break on the shoulder, pull off all together and get a bite to eat, and that’s cool for them. But for me, unless I was already planning to pull over for a bite, or to check my vehicles coolant levels and so forth, I’m not gonna let anything veer me from my course. And my thinking is because you never know how far you have to go before you break through. You could only have ten more yards to go ’til traffic is going to break and you will be right where you want be, smooth sailing. You can’t find that out on the shoulder. There’s an old proverb that says “The darkest hour of the night comes just before dawn.” So we must not give up!

The fourth concept to mastering anything is change. You must always be changing and growing. Its sounds so simple, but its oh so true, but if nothing changes, nothing changes.

So lets get back to the triangle, and the last piece of the triangle at the top is Technical Knowledge. This is the know how, the coaching. The piece that will actually make you money. Sometimes people skip the other two parts and get straight to this piece, the money aspect. Which can work, but without the internal knowledge, what will keep you motivated, how will you react when you become frustrated. You need those internal skills. How will you be able to create a good copywritten sales letter, or how will your conduct be when you are speaking with folks in seminars, meetings, webinars, you need those external communication skills. It all fits together.

The last thing Jerry spoke about and ended the call with was what he called The Slight Edge Concept. Which simply stated that “Everyday in every way you are either performing simple disciplines or simple errors of judgement.”

See discipline is the key. Excellence is not achieved overnight. It is a lifelong journey that we should be working on daily. And we are always working on something whether we know it or not. Just like the saying if you aren’t planning your work, you’re planning to fail. By you not taking interest in your work, you are ensuring your own failure. So The Slight Edge Concept is pretty much saying that everyday we are either making good choices or bad. The disciplines we create in our lives are the determining factor. Just repeat simple disciplines in our lives daily and over time you will see tremendous results.